I love ROLLER RINKS

Longs Drugstore was located about five miles outside of the town where I went to college. If you've ever lived in a traditional college town, you know that there is a big difference between the students who come from far and wide to attend school and the people that actually live in the town. And, you also know that people who are supposedly smart (i.e. the students) can very suddenly turn into smart asses. Longs, being a safe distance away from the sprawling university, did not really cater to the students. Therefore, REAL people shopped there. A cross-section of people. Poor. Rich. (Mostly poor.) Black, White, Asian, Indian, Purple, Homeless. This was a truly refreshing place. I could hop on my bicycle and reach the land of real life. The land of Longs. A roller rink, nowadays, is kind of like Longs.

It is fair to say that I had not been to a roller rink in twenty years when I decided to go again. When I was very little, I used to go to Mom & Tot Skate, to birthday parties, and to elementary school class parties all at the local roller rink. I used to do "shoot the duck," I couples skated with my friends, and I ate at the snack bar. I thought I was incredibly cool on my skates. I thought all of my friends were cool. I thought the skating rink was cool. Now, going there as an adult, I think I was delusional. Either that or times have really changed. See, skating rinks attract representation from every section of people. On Adult Night at the roller rink, I've seen: business people in suits; couples; single women in their fifties and sixties; lots of over-forty single men; lots of over-forty single men with mustaches; young, hip men; women with hot pants on; women with feathered hair; and lots of people in jeans who looked like they ambled in without knowing they were entering a roller rink. Lots of the single men are incredibly good skaters. They zip around the rink and occasionally do tricks. Everyone moves with ease, and I've never seen even one collision.

Like I said, there are lots of single people. I was a little concerned that it would be a bit of a freak-show meat market. People are pretty friendly, but there's more of a camaraderie than a place for pick-ups. I was asked by a Regular to skate with him in a couples skate. I had to decline because, although 50 year old men with mustaches have always been my type, I couldn't betray my nonexistent boyfriend. And, besides, skating was my outlet--my fun--and I just didn't want to taint that with some pseudo skate romance. My heart wouldn't be able to take it. Anyway, it dawned on me later that he probably only wanted to skate with me so that he could stay on the rink. It was a couples only song, after all.

So, yes, there are lots of odd-ball people, including the lady in pink tights who insists on skating on one leg with her other one extended behind her, and the man who most definitely used to be an ice skater who insists on doing axles in the middle of the rink. There are also the younger men who fall in line together on the rink and do a routine as they skate the circle. That's my favorite. Those guys usually don't get to the rink until about an hour and a half into Adult Skate Night. I chatted one of those hotties up tonight. "You're such a good skater. Oh, you have a locker here. Do you work here?" I said as I batted my eyelashes. Of course, he skated only with his pals, but I kept my eye on him the whole time. He was leading their routine, and you know I love a boy who can dance--especially on skates.

There are a lot of characters. Some form of those characters are, no doubt, in attendance in all of the roller rinks across the Midwest. You get to skate under a mirror ball while watching weirdos and the (extremely) occasional eye candy. Plus, skating is lots of fun. You groove to the music. You're free. You're so free that your freakiness ceases to matter. Here, you're allowed to kick your leg out or wear a leotard or break dance in the middle of the rink. You'll be able to wave you Freak Flag, and that is infinitely better than any coolness factor you thought you possessed.

A marginal review

I'm back! Life has felt so so small. Started a new job that takes up at least 8 1/2 to 9 hours of my day. How am I supposed to review movies?! I've been a bad movie reviewer again and of course Kathleen has been as on her game as ever. Never missing a beat. It's funny because I recently watched Lovely and Amazing and loved it, as well. The director, Nicole Holofcener takes a risk in that film because none of the characters is particularly relatable or likable--least of all Keener, who is her perennial muse and star. Keener played plucky, aging Homecoming Queen so well. She was entitled and spoiled but she was ABOUT SOMETHING. Sometimes the something was unclear...She was about making tiny, oversized figurines? She was about telling random people to "F*** off"? But she stood up for herself, at least. Holofcener is the Nancy Meyers antidote. Her movies are darker, more somber. Her films feature women who don't have sprawling mansions with breathtaking vistas. Her movies are real and sometimes they make you uncomfortable. I watched "Walking and Talking" a few years ago--starring Keener and Anne Heche. That movie was about losing your best friend to your best friend's boyfriend. Well, it was only marginally about that...Who among us can't relate to that? I remember meeting my sister's college boyfriend when I was an angsty sixteen year old and just hating him. I wanted my sister all to myself! He stayed in our home over winter break and I couldn't even make eye contact with him. Then, as now, I had very few social skills. Sometimes Holofcener skirts the question : What is female friendship when unmediated by men? The answer to that question is so much more interesting than the kiddie pool rom coms that can only ask : What is female friendship in relation to men? In the latter, the sidekick can only comment wistfully or wittily about the boyfriend/prospect. Who cares!?!?! Bride Wars I'm thinking about you....Women have thoughts, you know. Internal lives that don't always revolve around boys. Holofcener shows that. There are so few female directors in the limelight. I try to do my best to support them when I can.

One Memorial Day three years ago the three writers of this blog dressed up in all black and held an actual memorial for fallen soldiers. Foregoing barbecues and red tag sales we stood around a gorgeous hand dyed yellow flag and set it on fire. We talked about soldiers dying and how such a somber day could come to mean 50% OFF EVERYTHING!!!!! We talked about make up and the inexorable push and pull to it. Then we poured a bucket of water on the fallen flag and wondered how to get the smell out of our hair. See? Movies should portray women like this--making no sense, making little sense, making beautiful sense, making a scene...Trying to articulate thoughts that are ineffable. I love women.

Toy Story 3

"Would I be lost because I didn't see the second installment? Would Buzz and Woody's inside jokes make no sense to me?" I mulled over the answers as I entered the movie theater to see Toy Story 3. I needn't have worried; Toy Story 3 is a good movie--all on its own.

Toy Story came out in 1995. 1995 was the year I stopped playing with my Barbies. Once I made the decision to stop playing, I could not start again. I know because I tried. I set up my Barbie houses with my Barbie furniture, picked out the Barbie dolls I would play with, and started. But, I could not go back once I quit. That was one of the saddest days of my life. My Barbies used to be everything to me. I would play for hours. I kept story lines going. It was absolutely my escape. Once I put a moratorium on playing, my sanctuary was destroyed. I gave it all up because I was afraid a friend would come over and make fun of me for still playing Barbies. No friend in eighth grade (I know...that's how OLD I was) was worth that, but I gave up part of my life anyway. The Toy Story film makers understand and respect each toy. They understand each toy's back story, how it is played with, who would play with it, and why. The film makers also understand the children who love such toys. That, I think, is the charm of the Toy Story movies.

The first movie is sweet in that it explores a child's relationship and devotion to her or his toys. Really, the movie explores how children create their own allies within their own little world. I can relate. I mean, I guess that's why I spent so much time and energy on my Barbie world; it was controllable and intricate and friendly in a real world that was not always that way.

Toy Story 3 brings the charm of the first one, but adds a new dimension. The toys' boy, Andy, is no longer a little boy. He's heading off to college. What, then, should become of his toys? I was not expecting to be moved by this movie in the way that I was. At the heart of Toy Story 3 is this message: Respect your past enough to allow yourself to move on and leave what you can in capable hands. Remember in the first Toy Story when all of the toys worked together (and relied on the Army men) to find out what toys Andy got for his birthday? Well, there's a scene in the beginning of T.S.3 that mirrors that in an alternate universe. The toys work together once again to concoct a plan to make a 17 year old Andy open his toy box. See, Andy doesn't play any more, but the toys think that maybe, MAYBE, just by seeing them, Andy will want to love them again. That scene is a prelude to the tears that will inevitably come for the viewer at the end of the movie. Be comforted that you won't be the only one weeping during the last 15 minutes of the film. I will not say more about it. Just go see this movie.

Lovely and Amazing

Sometimes, there are movies that you just don't want anyone else to see. Having someone else see it would be the same as sharing your diary or letting the lunch lady from your elementary school watch you take a bath. For me, Lovely & Amazing is one of those movies. Lovely & Amazing is about a white mother and two grown daughters. (One, who is played by Catherine Keener, is married with a child. The other, played by Emily Mortimer, is a single actress who routinely picks up stray dogs.) The mother also has a black, adopted daughter named Annie. She's about 10 years old. The mother goes in to have liposuction on her stomach. She's got a crush on her doctor. Oh my gosh...this IS a personal story to me. I mean, does everyone's mother fall in love with her doctor? For my own piece of mind, just answer me "yes." While the mother is in the hospital with the procedure, the older daughters go on with their lives and have to take care of Annie.

They're all in it together because they're sisters. And, as is the case in certain families, that is what they have; that is their family. The most moving parts of the movie deal with body image. Annie wants to tear her skin off to make it look white like her mom's. Annie's fat like her mom, and understands that her mom is having liposuction to look better. However, when your mom goes to such great lengths to change her appearance (an appearance that, in some respects, matches her daughter's), a 10 year old girl is not really emotionally equipped to come to terms with such a conclusion. I guess it follows that the actress-sister has the same sorts of body insecurities. Maybe it's because they were/are raised by the same mother. Maybe it's because they are women/girls in this American society. What alternative do they really have than to be unsatisfied with and insecure about their bodies?

Emily Mortimer's character has, possibly, the most honest and uncomfortable scene. She stands naked in front of a famous actor (played by Dermot Mulroney...Keener's real-life then-husband and now ex-husband) after she has sex with him. She tells him to tell her what is good and bad about her body. The critique that she requests (which he does give) is startling because Mortimer's character, although self-deprecating and kind of insecure, seems ultimately strong in herself. The critique represents a kind of truth women both want and don't want about their bodies. It's a vulnerability that seemingly self-assured women rarely display.

After, the actress walks away to rescue another dog. Only, this one bites her in the face. I think this daughter will ultimately be okay, though, because the next morning she wakes up to a house full of her sisters. They're waiting for the call from the hospital to finally pick their mother up. I get the feeling that maybe Mortimer's character--just for that moment--doesn't care that some one-night stand guy told her that her teeth were yellow or that her arms were flabby. See, in that moment, her family was together. And, that's what she has, mentally and physically, and for better or for worse.

The Secret In Their Eyes (El Secreto de sus Ojos)

I don't really know where to begin with this. See, I saw The Secret In Their Eyes (El Secreto de sus Ojos) tonight by myself, and then I met someone for drinks after. I couldn't really talk about the movie because I was afraid I would give something away. But, that's all I could think about. It consumed me. I was so emotionally overwhelmed that I had to compartmentalize it all until I could totally spill. I guess this is my spill because I feel like I'm just needing to tell everything and nothing at once (because I just don't want to spoil anything). I knew next to nothing going into the movie (other than 1. it won an Oscar for best foreign film; 2, it's from Argentina; and 3. three of my friends told me they really liked it. Well, one of them said it's an epic film. I knew that meant something because he prefaced that statement with, "I wouldn't normally ever use the word 'epic,' but that's what it is." I think he was right.)

There is a rape and murder that takes place, and everything stems from there. The images are not so gruesome that you can't watch, but they are affecting because they never seem to leave the protagonist's mind. By transference, they never leave the viewer's mind, either. The images of the dead woman linger and serve to taint all the other parts of the movie. The main character (Benjamin), 25 years later, decides to write a novel (even though it's a true-event story) about this rape/homicide case. So, we the audience are tossed back and forth between him writing and reflecting on the case and the time period in the past, and present day. The shift is not jarring; if anything, it's a way to clarify his feelings in the present and understand the events that led up to the now.

There's crime and intrigue and humor and suspicion, but I'm neglecting the most resonating part. There is, in fact, a tragic and beautiful love story that you really must experience to appreciate. And, there's not just one. Benjamin's longing for Irene, the lawyer on the case, gets interlaced with the murdered woman's grieving husband, and maybe Benjamin even loves that woman, too. There are three key scenes in The Secret In Their Eyes that especially took my breath away. Forgive the evasive nature of this review, but it's important that I give nothing away. Suffice it to say that all three key scenes start with a glance or a gesture and end with perfect dialogue.

I know I'm not really doing justice to this film. It's way past midnight now, and I'm still thinking about the cadence of the plot and the arch of the characters. I'm still sorting it all out. You just need to see it. It's exactly how I think movies deserve to be: strong and developed and tragic and funny and alive.